LOVE IS NOT A FEELING it's an ACTION! 01/25/2012
Love, Love, Love, we say, we hear, we feel it...But do we REALLY know what it means?! To some of us it's a word we casually use to describe our feelings for those we claim to care about; for some it is an expression of our innermost feelings toward or received from someone and some claim, not to even know what it is. There are several definitions, translations, philosophies and teachings behind this one simple four letter word, that has such a profound meaning! Well rather than re-iterate someone else's definition I want to go on record as stating LOVE is NOT a FEELING its and ACTION. True Love is offered because we understand it as the freewill offering FREELY given to us (if we choose to receive it) just as we must freely give it away. So, it's not about you must " FEEL" love to GIVE IT nor to RECEIVE IT, Just OFFER IT and WELCOME IT! An invitation is not necessary and permission is not needed. Here is my REVELATION of LOVE: Love should be the essence of who we are, and is the evidence of our existence, proven by our lifestyles. It should be the motivation to elevate our spiritual man, through daily self-inventory. It should be the driving force that commits us toward excellence in every area of our lives. It should be the sovereignty that provides for us unconditional peace and faith. It is the unspoken promise that keeps humanity in existence and remains the infinite connection between God/ess and man. MAY WE ALL- LEARN, LIVE, GIVE and RECEIVE L*O*V*E! Live Well , Dae' Add Comment LASTING CHANGE STARTS FROM WITHIN.... 01/03/2012
Entering the "NEW" Year often brings about a time of reflection. We find ourselves thinking about things we want or need to change and making promises or commitments to bring about the change(s) we are seeking. However, more importantly than the looking for and making outward change we must first recognize that change starts from within. The one thing that will forever remain consistent in our lives in any given situation is (us). Meaning, we may change the people, places, and things in our lives, but until we change ourselves, we risk attracting the same types of people, scenarios, circumstances, and situations. Lasting change happens when we choose to change ourselves first. We have everything in our lives, because we have attracted it, from within us. Therefore, when decide to: first become what we expect from others, be willing to give what we want to receive from the world (then and ONLY THEN) those people, places and things that enter our lives will match our inner being. Therefore, the next time you find yourself looking outside yourself for change, stop and grab a mirror! Welcome to 2012 and Make it your BEST YEAR EVER! Live Well, Dae' Where is your EGO - Energy Going Out? 12/01/2011
The word Ego is generally defined as: relating to “self” and or the area of the mind that is between consciousness and unconsciousness, which portrays our self identity. It is something we ALL have – B I G or small. However, today I want to discuss EGO from the perspective of ENERGY GOING OUT. To best understand EGO from this perspective and how it operates, is to first realize that, how you see your“self”identity is also how the world sees you. For example, if you see yourself as weak, incompetent, insecure, angry etc., that is what others will see in you, and respond accordingly. Now, you may be thinking: “this information is not anything “new” to you ;or what I am saying appears as the “obvious”. Well consider this: Is it possible, that who you THINK you are – is not who you "ACTUALLY" are (or how the world sees you)? In other words could you be disillusioned about your self- concept / Identity (EGO)? For example you may be deceived about your EGO and have convinced yourself that you are content with your self identity, when infact you are not. Well, today I challenge you to put your EGO “Self Identitiy” or (Energy Going Out) - to the test. Now Let’s take a look at the characteristics’ I described: weak, incompetent, insecure, angry – perhaps you don’t “see” yourself as portraying any of these characteristics. But, did you know that if you lack confidence is the root of weakness - incompetence, and is represented in a person who is very doubtful. Insecurity - will represent itself as, jealousy or envy of others. Anger - will be represented by feelings of frustration, disappointment, resentment and a sense of overall discontentment. Now, perhaps you may see where EGO deception is not easily identifiable, when our understanding and knowledge is limited. Just the same you must come to understand and accept, the world around you is responding to you, according to what your EGO (ENERGY GOING OUT) is “sending out”. And likewise you are attracting all that comes attached with that ENERGY that you are sending out. Therefore, It is vital, that we learn to view the energy we are sending out, like an energy magnet (attracting to us, all of which comes from us, (and the like), back to us). So, in the case of my example, a person with the EGO I’ve described, would be living a life of dissatisfaction, feeling less hopeful, frustrated, resentful, and experiencing much discontentment, etc. And this “state of being / self-identity” will continue to be reinforced with more of the same, and the like; because that is the message their EGO (ENERGY GOING OUT) is sending to the world! Bottomline, it is important to recognize: Where is yourEGO (ENERGY GOING OUT)? This is accomplished by identifying with, what you are attracting to your life?! And this is done by examining your life as it is now, and asking yourself: “Am I satisfied with myself / life as it is NOW, if nothing was to change”? Know that your answer is, the indicator that will determine – Where is your EGO (Energy Going Out) ! When you better understand who you are, you can LIVE “YOUR” BEST LIFE! If you or someone you know could benefit from understanding your EGO and or in need of intuitive counseling, to help with your / their current life direction, contact totalwellnessliving@ymail.com and submit your request for intuitive counseling. Live Well! Dae’ Choice is the Catalyst to Change! 11/20/2011
Consider this: The reason that change does not happen in our lives is because, the choices we make are not bringing about the "CHANGE" we need (so more of the same continues to show up in our lives - Chaos, discontent, suffering, misery, failure, etc.). Therefore, the choices we need to make, should be with the consideration of the "Change" that needs to take place in our lives. Hence, the emphasis put into our choices will bring about the needed change in our life. So Remember, the choice to choose should be made with an invested interest made from the power within each of us, to change our circumstances. Because CHOICE IS THE CATALYST TO CHANGE, CHOOSE WISELY! Live Well, Dae' Did you know that our Life situations are the manifestation of our thoughts? So, you may want to be more conscious about what you choose to THINK about! Take a moment and reflect on this: Every action FIRST REQUIRED a THOUGHT, and that thought was given focus (attention), and that focus, became an action. Those ACTIONS then lead to a situation(s); and that/ those situation(s) turned into circumstances. And just THINK, it all started from a THOUGHT. So, it doesn't matter how big or small, pleasant or unpleasant, your life situation(s) are, you created them with your thoughts. Therefore, when we learn to conscientiously control what we THINK about, we will FOCUS on the things we want to CREATE, and thus our LIFE CIRCUMSTANCES, will become more favorable! So, the next time you go to ask yourself, what is going on in my life? Rephrase the question to, WHAT AM I THINKING ?! Live Well, Dae' "REAL-ity" CHECK! 10/28/2011
A “REAL-ity” check, offers a choice to embrace the “REAL” truth (which presents us with unexplored opportunities, for the life lesson(s) being presented to us). OR - we can remain in denial (which stagnates our growth, and limits our potential to make the necessary changes needed in our lives). So, the next time you are presented with a “REAL-ity” check, embrace the “REAL” Truth that is being presented to you, about your life circumstances. In order to GROW WE MUST ALLOW and ACCEPT the challenges that are necessary, to make the needed changes in our lives! So, Honor yourself and embrace your "REALITY CHECK" and LIVE YOUR BEST LIFE! Live Well, Dae’ Letting Go! 10/17/2011
Letting go is not giving up, it is a form of surrender to that which is out of your control. When you have done "your" part in a life matter situation then there is nothing more you can do than to ALLOW. Although letting go may appear fearful, because matters are out of your control, and unresolved, but the fact of the matter is, when you LET GO, you allow, things to unfold as they should and you surrender to God/Higher Power. This my friends is "Faith". Faith is what allows us to live our lives, with the necessary hope, to make it through each day (without knowing the outcome , we still live out our daily experiences). Let us remember the only control we have is over ourselves, and we limit our faith along with exhaust ourselves, when we don't Let Go! Live Well, DaNe' Self Care as a Way of Life! 10/06/2011
Self Care is more than pedicures, manicures, a visit to the barber, etc. It is making sure that you are having your personal needs, along with your wellness needs met; in a way that allows you to live a quality of life, that supports your overall well being. So you make ask, what does that mean for you? Well, take out some time to answer that question for yourself. What does it take for you to have the peace of mind, solitude, emotional welling and balance (mind, body and spirt) , for "your" life? Therefore, in the hustle and bustle of your day, slow down enough for selfcare. Remember, all of what you have to do will be here, in the same condition you left it, but will you be here, and if so, in what condition?! For every day we live an unbalanced life, we are cheating ourselves of the life fulfillment we deserve, that no one else can provide for us but "US"! So, Take "Self" Care Daily and LIVE Well! DaNe' Proper Planning 09/26/2011
There is a saying: "People don't plan to fail, Yet, They Fail, to Plan!" And I would add to that saying, don't just have a plan, have an effective one, that will accomplish your goals! My consultees have said: " I've tried this or that, I planned this or that...and have not been successful"! And the common mistake found is, that there was not a - well thought out plan. Proper planning involves, research, counsel, and the necessary consideration of what it will take to accomplish that goal ( i.e. - Is it reasonable or realistic to accomplish this goal?). So when considering your next goal, make sure you are planning properly, to be successful! Live Well, DaNe' What is your "INTENTION" ? 09/21/2011
Did you know that INTENTION is the catalyst to accomplishing your goals? Although, motivation is a fundamental necessity, it alone is simply not enough to achieve what you want. "Intention" petitions the actions necessary to put your plans into motion. So remember, with the next goal you set, be INTENTIONAL about accomplishing it! Live Well! DaNe’ | From My Heart to Your Soul,Welcome aboard to the life changing journey of Total Wellness Living! I am honored to share this experience with you; as together we explore, our individual paths, of life with a purpose! ArchivesJanuary 2012 |
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